Anger is a completely normal, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems
Problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you are at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion. Let us understand and control anger.
An emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage, Anger has a physical effect on the body.
Anger can be caused by both external and internal events.
You could be angry at a specific person ,such as a co-worker or an event like a traffic jam,. Constant worrying or brooding about your personal problems can create anger as well. Memories of traumatic events can also trigger angry feelings.
Instinctively, the natural way to express anger is to respond aggressively. Anger is a natural, adaptive response to threats; it inspires powerful, often aggressive, feelings and behaviours, which allow us to fight and to defend ourselves when we are attacked. We need a certain amount of anger for our survival.
We cannot physically lash out at every person or object that irritates or annoys us; limits in society stop us to go to far.
People use a variety of both conscious and unconscious processes to deal with their angry feelings. To express angry feelings in an assertive non aggressive manner is the healthiest way to express anger. To learn how to make clearly what they are by setting boundaries.
Being assertive does not mean being demanding, it means being respectful of yourself and others.
Anger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. When anger is not allowed in an outward expression, your anger can turn inward, on yourself. Anger turned inward may cause depression and other health issues.
Unexpressed anger can create other problems. passive-aggressive behaviour can be hostile.
A range of techniques for changing your thinking and your behaviours are available.
Life will still happen, frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others.
You cannot change that, but you can change the way you let such events affect you.
Taking control of your anger can help you take back your life.
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